I love my wife very much. I really do, but honestly speaking, having sex with her bores me to death. For the seven years we have been married, I have always tried my best not to have a wandering eye but I just cannot help it. I find my time browsing some of the best escorts in London websites looking at their dartford escorts, bromley escorts and ilford escorts pages. The fact that I find making love to my wife extremely torturous has driven me to considering having a number of several no-strings attached affairs over the years. I am in love with her as much as I was in love with her the day I married her. She is a very beautiful woman and an exemplary mother. I have tried everything I possibly can to spice up things in bed but nothing seems to do the trick. To me, having sex with her has become like eating from the same diner throughout one’s life.
This has been bothering me so much such that last month, I confessed this to my best friend who was also my best man during our wedding. He told me that it would be wise if I broached the subject with my wife and then try to look for a solution together. I have not yet brought up this subject to my wife yet mostly because of two reasons: I know that it will terribly hurt her female pride and secondly, I fear she may decide to divorce me. I cannot risk any of that from happening because sex issues aside, I still love her. Why do I find sex with her so boring?
She is strictly conservative.
My wife is very old fashioned. This is mostly due to the fact that she was brought up in a strictly religious household with parents who hold dear every right-wing ideology. She treats sex as a mere necessity in marriage, not something to be enjoyed. When having sex with her, her mind is not into it 90% of the time. When I ask her why she does not concentrate or at least be in the mood, she gives me a sermon on why sex should not be enjoyed because enjoying it would mean surrendering to the passions of the body, a very big sin according to her. Shocking, right?
She only sticks with a single position during our love making sessions.
My wife is very rigid when it comes to having sex. For all those years we have been married, she has always stuck with the “missionary” style during sex. I find this extremely boring because it feels like doing the same thing exactly the same way over and over. It is like she cannot wait for the sex to be over and be done with. I have heard several sexually active women say that trying different positions in bed makes the experience more enjoyable and more fun. As a result, I cannot help but wonder if my wife is never interested in getting pleasured or that she simply treats sex as totally obligatory. I like my sexual partners very flexible in bed and not shying off from trying new different things and styles. Since no amount of convincing will ever make my wife try other sex positions, this makes our love making sessions totally mundane, forcing me to think of having my urges satisfied elsewhere. This is another reason why I am craving for those extra marital no-strings attached affairs.
She declines every time I offer to get her off.
I believe that for sex to be fulfilling and satisfying, the participants should reach the point of climaxing. Otherwise, what is the end goal of sex if not to get off? Tell this to my beloved wife and she would look at you like you have suddenly demanded for both of her kidneys. Every time we have sex, I am usually the first one to orgasm. When I offer to finish her off, she totally refuses. This makes me feel very selfish and like an under-achiever. It greatly dents my male pride that my wife would rather sleep than let me finish her off. At times, I have even been forced to withhold my orgasms, waiting for her to climax first before I am done. This has made the idea of making love to her again feel like a terrible nightmare.
Complains that I last too long.
Before I married her, I never had any idea that having sex had a time limit. Who in their right mind would wish that their sexual encounters do not last longer? What bores me to death when I am having sex with her is her numerous questions like “Aren’t you finished yet?” It feels like I am forcing myself on her. What should be noted is that I have never forced her in to having sex with me. Our sexual encounters are always mutually consented.
Did I mention that my wife believes that sex is not meant to be enjoyed? Yes, she does. My wife believes that sex should take the shortest amount of time possible. She has never agreed to giving or receiving oral throughout our marriage life. This greatly dulls up our sex life because I believe that a little prep work sets a great way for a mind-blowing, nerve-shattering sex. The closest thing my wife has ever done to foreplay is kissing me moments before we have sex. She has never agreed to anything beyond that.
She is always passive.
I do not know if it is just me but I believe that for sex to be enjoyable and satisfying, all the partners should actively participate. I am sure my wife must have missed the memo. When we are having sex, she will not do as much as move a limb. She is completely passive and totally leaves me to do as I please. This I find extremely boring because it feels like making love to a log!
I could go on and on but the bottom line is that I find sex with my wife so boring that I cannot help but crave for a no-strings attached affair. I love her so much and since I would never divorce her, I think the only way to bring sparks to my sex life is having an affair outside of marriage, right?